Perfidy Valence

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Why Perfidy Valence?

      One afternoon last year I woke up from a power nap with an odd term on my mind--"Perfidy Valence".   I accepted the term with a fleeting moment of clarity as though it was something completely natural to me and made perfect sense.  Then, as I became more fully awake, the phrase continued to stay on my mind while losing any significance to my real world of thinking.   However I felt compelled to write a blog post regarding the phrase and to use "Perfidy Valence" as my blog post title.

      The advice most often given to bloggers in regard to increasing site traffic is to use titles that will draw readers.   Commonly the tactics include using a question that interests many people or presenting an idea that will appear useful to others.  Overly technical or obscure titles typically do not attract readers since there is nothing in the title for them to connect to.

What Attracts You to a Blog Post?

      Perfidy Valence strikes me as a blog title that would attract few visitors.   You who visit this particular blog post will most likely be regular readers who are visiting out of habit, reciprocity, or just to see what I had to say.  Those of you who have dropped in might have have done so without even noticing the title of the post while others may have read the title and thought little of it since--well, because I sometimes come up with weird stuff and this was just another one of those things.  

      Then there will possibly be those who drop by because they were intrigued by the title.  Perhaps the phrase had some sort of actual significance for some.  For others the pairing of these words evoked a sort of puzzlement that attracted them to the post out of curiosity.   If there were any of you who fell into these categories, I hope you don't feel scammed that you were lured here under any sort of false pretenses.  For that matter I hope regular visitors aren't thinking something like, "What an idiot!  There Arlee Bird goes again with some oddball notion."

It's a Legitimate Question

      From my view on this topic of blog titles, it's not so much the words "perfidy valence" that are the real focus here.  Some readers may have expected something about a villain from a movie western or a post about science.   There are many things the title could suggest since the word "valence" has a range of meanings and "perfidy" is a word that is somewhat charged with emotion and negativity.

      In the past I used another term derived from a dream on this blog--Dynamic Flow,  After googling the term I found that others had actually used it, though I had no recollection of ever having heard it before.  I ended up with the post Dynamic Flow: The Dream as well as Dynamic Flow:  A Guest Post By Halina Goldstein.   Later I recycled my dream post as Deja Vu Blogfest: Dynamic Flow.   I can't say that any of this took on viral post proportions, but I did get some interesting reactions on all of these posts.

       However I do think legitimate questions are raised in regard to using obscure blog post titles.  Can a title of this nature increase readership?  Might using this sort of title cause a new visitor to feel ripped off after reading the post?   In this present post I think my topic is a fair one, but could my title be construed to be a deception?    

        Does using certain key words (such as sex, football, best-seller) or other names or phrases which have topical significance (for example Obama, ISIS, Kim Kardashian) in a blog post title constitute a rip-off if the blogger does not actually discuss to any great extent the word or name used?  

         Do you usually make an effort to formulate titles for your blog posts that you think will draw new readers?    Are there any particular titles that you have used that have had a particularly good response or even caused your blog post to go viral to some extent?   Are there any blog post titles that have backfired for you?

         What made you visit today's blog post at Tossing It Out?

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Dynamic Flow: A Guest Post by Halina Goldstein

           For those who haven't noticed, I have a blog about dreams called A Faraway View.   A while back I had a dream about a concept called "Dynamic Flow".   According to the information that I received in this dream,  Dynamic Flow is the theory that states:  Outward movement of money will result in an incoming flow of money.

             I will be blogging about this dream on A Faraway View tomorrow.  However as I was preparing that post I began to wonder if the concept delivered to me in my dream was original.   When I googled the term I found various entries that used the term, but one in particular caught my eye.   


            I have invited the author of that Google entry to Tossing It Out to provide her explanation of Dynamic Flow.  You may want to save this post for deeper contemplation since it does invite some thought, but do give it a read through now and let us know what you think.    I am honored to introduce you to Halina Goldstein:

Money is, without doubt, one of the most interesting aspects of our lives, and as such it is surrounded by excitement and fear, desire and frustration, and last but not least: mystery. Even if the subject has been explored in depth in countless ways already, there doesn't seem to be any universal trick or ultimate solution to the money challenge. No matter how evolved our philosophy around life, spirituality and money may be, and regardless whether we choose to live a simple life or strive for wealth, our day-to-day experience most often reveals a complicated and often difficult relationship with money.

So here's another perspective on money, and, as you will see, a somewhat unconventional one:

       In most relationships, much of the difficulty stems from lacking ability or willingness to understand and accept the other person as is, unconditionally. Approaching another person with hopes, fears or expectations  which most people tend to do much of the time - equals inviting complications, pain and dissatisfaction into the relationship.

       In that respect our relationship with money is no different than our relationship with people. Much of the difficulty is due to our limited understanding of money as such and hence a tendency to approach money as merely "a thing".    A thing that we earn and then use to buy other things, or a thing that we use to fulfill our needs, physical, emotional, mental and spiritual, including the need for safety and freedom.

       Money affects every aspect of our life, sometimes in big and visible ways, and sometimes in equally big yet subtle ways. In any case, because of the key role money plays in our lives, transforming our relationship with money can lead to a transformation of our life as such, and not just our finances. But how can we transform this relationship?

        One such way is to approach money -- and everything else by the way - as a flow -- as energy flowing.

         From that perspective, money is not a thing but a flow. Not just as in "cash flow" (although that is a very important part of it), but in the sense that the entire experience of money is a flow: a flow that involves all aspects of our life (spirituality, personality, emotions, thoughts, vocation, calling, relationships and creativity) in a way that is meaningful and purposeful.

         As I experience it, money flow (like all flow) is dynamic by nature. Dynamic in the sense that it changes, and that these changes are meaningful and in no way coincidental.

        How can that knowledge help us create a more harmonious relationship with money, and from there in fact a more harmonious and joyful relationship with ourselves and our world?

        First of all, knowing that money is a meaningful, dynamic flow we can choose to go with it rather than fight against it. Experience shows us that when we follow it, in other words, when we are willing to learn from our money flow, it supports us on our unique life journey and leads eventually to more freedom and lightness. And the other way round: when we fight against it, it often leads to stagnation or crisis.

       To learn from your money flow is to be willing to look at money with fresh eyes. It is to learn from your financial biography (which also is an emotional and spiritual biography), and also to be willing to learn about the money dynamic as such: how it reflects your energy, your receptivity, your relationship with yourself, your relationship with other people and the world as a whole, your purpose -- and also how it by itself shapes your journey and thus helps you move in the direction that you are meant to move in.

       The latter is often being overlooked by the way: Money has a very specific transformational role in your life, and if you don't understand that dynamic you may find yourself struggling in one or more aspects of your finances even if it looks like you're doing everything you're supposed to do. You may for example be applying all the best advice to your business yet nothing seems to work.

        As you learn to relate to money as a flow, without clinging to it, as you learn to be receptive to the way that flow supports you you realize that money, like everything else, is here to help and support you. As you open to that support you may be surprised by the way money can show you your way to freedom, joy, and purpose.



This article is written by Halina Goldstein, coach, teacher, writer and the creator of the Flow~Integration Approach-- a fresh approach to living with flow, joy and purpose. Visit Halina's Flow blog here and download a map for your Flow Journey plus a beautiful Flow Contemplation and Music mp3. (no money will be required. :-))





         Thank you Halina!   And be sure to check back tomorrow on A Faraway View for my thoughts on this dream "message".


         Also, don't miss the big announcement on the Blogging from A to Z Challenge Blog.




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