tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post389641850033707804..comments2024-03-28T22:21:46.973-07:00Comments on Tossing It Out: I'm Happy And I Know It...Now What?: Guest Hijacker Jericha SenyakArlee Birdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11663942782929929334noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-34073891643233080052012-07-21T15:32:23.158-07:002012-07-21T15:32:23.158-07:00LD: I think you're right, it's a hard thin...LD: I think you're right, it's a hard thing to change, and even if it <i>can</i> be done I'm not sure it <i>should</i> be. It's more that I'd like to be able to give some sense that lightness exists <i>also</i> to those whose natural state is somewhat gloomy. <br /><br />Jasmine: You're right on about not trying not to worry about what you've been given and just working with it as best you can. That's important for me to bear in mind as well.<br /><br />Carol: Thank you! It's nice to meet you too!<br /><br />Misha: If they make sense to you, go for it. As long as others aren't being harmed, why not? Sometimes the hardest and most beautiful thing is just to take the leap.<br /><br />Amy: Thank you! Yes, I do think it's hard for those of us who got lucky with the happy neurochemistry to wrap our heads around what it's like <i>not</i> to work that way. Which is why compassion is such an important part of joy - as is remembering that one's own form of open-mindedness isn't always the <i>only</i> form.<br /><br />Arlee: Thanks again! This has been such a wonderful experience. I feel so lucky to get to meet all your wonderful readers.<br /><br />bucksaver: Thank you. It's good to know I've got something to offer.jerichashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14313710420089008960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-49722474416754856152012-07-21T13:06:36.085-07:002012-07-21T13:06:36.085-07:00Enjoyed your post! We actually need more people l...Enjoyed your post! We actually need more people like you to balance out the darkness. I really like your point about being a lighthouse. You can beam your happiness and if the ones who followed dark chooses to see the light, everyone wins. But if you force someone to "drink" like you said, it actually sometimes does more harm than good. Also like acknowledging both sides. Before I tried to ignore the dark, but that's is fantasy island. Thanks!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-13957649946503942512012-07-20T19:34:39.302-07:002012-07-20T19:34:39.302-07:00Since I'm about to embark on a couple more day...Since I'm about to embark on a couple more days of intense driving and may not be able to access the internet much, I want to say thank you Jericha for a post that was much needed today.<br /><br />Thanks to those who commented so far and those whom I'm sure will be commenting over the week-end.<br /><br />Be happy!<br /><br />LeeArlee Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11663942782929929334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-77339408187094939362012-07-20T17:28:58.671-07:002012-07-20T17:28:58.671-07:00Goodness gracious! I completely relate to Jericha...Goodness gracious! I completely relate to Jericha!! I have also wrestled with my guilt about being happy all the time (most of the time anyway!), and also wrestled with not understanding WHY can't everyone else choose to make lemonade out of lemons (cuz, believe me, I've had my share.) So THANK YOU for this spectacular post. As an earlier commenter said - glad to know I"m not the only one with happy issues! :)Amy S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/04782289852859434986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-8678689189645628092012-07-20T13:53:23.259-07:002012-07-20T13:53:23.259-07:00A lot of times, I feel like I should do things tha...A lot of times, I feel like I should do things that might just look as if I'm insane. <br /><br />Sometimes I do them anyway. :-DMisha Gerrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06364173848456424521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-80585200596640796872012-07-20T13:01:52.055-07:002012-07-20T13:01:52.055-07:00Nice to meet you, Jericha. I'm a naturally hap...Nice to meet you, Jericha. I'm a naturally happy and optimistic person, too. I like your analogy of a lighthouse.<br /><br />Hi, Arlee :)Carol Kilgorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03745686632918324803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-50462641754910840622012-07-20T10:48:32.274-07:002012-07-20T10:48:32.274-07:00Great Post! I loved it. Thanks for sharing. It ...Great Post! I loved it. Thanks for sharing. It is right along the line of my last post- just seeing the good in anything whenever you can, even when it's hard to do.<br />Although I can't say that I lean either very joyous or to the 'darker' side, it is a gift within my family to simply NOT be bi-polar. I have always felt a little guilty that I was one of the few not afflicted. But it doesn't do any good to worry about what you are given, just best to use it as you can for the understanding and sharing with other human beings.'Yellow Rose' Jasminehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12496382898548158316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-40457581609433176352012-07-20T10:16:39.177-07:002012-07-20T10:16:39.177-07:00I think we all move back and forth from happy to s...I think we all move back and forth from happy to sad at different times, for different reasons. What makes us different is our "default" state - where we return to after the thing that moved us to happy or sad has passed. This is what makes some people "natually happy" or "basically unhappy". It's a wonderful thing to try to help someone change their default state if they're unhappy but sometimes I wonder if it can be done.LD Mastersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01202135756299574972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-34882714956564197602012-07-20T09:29:52.050-07:002012-07-20T09:29:52.050-07:00Lee, thanks so much for hosting me. It's an ho...Lee, thanks so much for hosting me. It's an honor.<br /><br />YeamieWaffles: Thank you for the kind wishes! If I'm getting through to a self-proclaimed Derek Downer, I must be doing something right :)<br /><br />Em-Musing: I'm always glad to know there are others out there. It's a beautiful experience to feel "joy rise through the pain," as you so eloquently put it.<br /><br />Theresa: I know it can be hard to relax and enjoy! It helps me if I try to remember that the wonder and beauty of life is what makes the worry worth it.<br /><br />Yvonne: Thank you!<br /><br />Madeline: I'm so glad you were moved by that. It's a thought that's taken me a while to articulate. <br /><br />Jennifer: your courage and wisdom are absolutely inspirational. I hope many people have a chance to learn from you. It sounds like you've created a powerful way of seeing the world. Go you.<br /><br />Ciara: yes, Gwyn Michael is amazing! You should fin & follow her!<br /><br />Shelly: It's not a terrible problem to have, am I right?<br /><br />Lynn: Thank you!<br /><br />Andrew: of course you are.jerichashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14313710420089008960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-48510773023607309062012-07-20T08:53:47.193-07:002012-07-20T08:53:47.193-07:00I am now, inexplicably, having flashes of Ren &...I am now, inexplicably, having flashes of Ren & Stimpy.Andrew Leonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13964775673414653644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-81338197212909461152012-07-20T08:44:37.533-07:002012-07-20T08:44:37.533-07:00i too feel hopeful most of the time and consider m...i too feel hopeful most of the time and consider myself an optimist---i feel it comes from my faith---i have seen more beauty and utter joy in the strangest most darkest times----very interesting post!!Lynn Proctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16349867270815243053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-33297272295159953552012-07-20T08:24:13.722-07:002012-07-20T08:24:13.722-07:00Great post! Glad to know I'm not the only one ...Great post! Glad to know I'm not the only one with happy issues.<br /><br />Shelly<br />http://www.shellysnovicewritings.blogspot.com/shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09596621767297173021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-22629462036673977642012-07-20T07:38:20.443-07:002012-07-20T07:38:20.443-07:00Wow, I can't imagine at thirteen, losing a fat...Wow, I can't imagine at thirteen, losing a father, a home, and a mother to sadness and process it so well. Most people would crawl into darkness, drugs, etc...<br />You should be proud. You are inspiring.Ciarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15628488753277495111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-14149966307996294552012-07-20T07:21:24.986-07:002012-07-20T07:21:24.986-07:00Enjoyed this very much today, thanks, Jericha and ...Enjoyed this very much today, thanks, Jericha and Lee.<br /><br />I've always tended to have a positive and happy nature. In 2006 two of my adult children died in an accident, which was the most horrible thing imaginable for any parents.<br /><br />What I've found in my journey thru grief and healing their death is that I could see that their death didn't have to be a lifetime of endless misery for me. <br /><br />Then thru the eyes of a new found perspective that I had never had before I began to explore a deeper more richer feeling for life that I had ever experienced before. <br /><br />And when the grief lifted some years later, there it was... my joy..it was back!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10204165708189660644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-79034562546917660022012-07-20T05:47:12.465-07:002012-07-20T05:47:12.465-07:00As someone who leans toward worry and "dark,&...As someone who leans toward worry and "dark," as someone who strives to be positive and focused on the good out there and inside myself, this was my favorite part - <br /><br />"That's maybe the very strangest thing about existence: that somehow, the darkness and the brightness don't cancel each other out. They're just both there, both part of us. One is not more true than the other, and we need to remember and honor and work to understand both."<br /><br />Great post! Thanks for sharing.Madeline Mora-Summontehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05529397293165046430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-78260631325637595342012-07-20T05:29:46.418-07:002012-07-20T05:29:46.418-07:00Wonderful post. A real pleasure to read
Yvonne.Wonderful post. A real pleasure to read<br />Yvonne.RHYTHM AND RHYMEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11386975261804630799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-40910792772902537912012-07-20T05:20:14.836-07:002012-07-20T05:20:14.836-07:00Arlee, thanks for introducing me to Jericha.
Wh...Arlee, thanks for introducing me to Jericha. <br /><br />While appreciate life, I worry too much to be joyful. This was an interesting perspective for me to read. I should try to relax and enjoy more.Theresa Milsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03477761307315565259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-81215385147178306532012-07-20T03:22:49.093-07:002012-07-20T03:22:49.093-07:00Wow, you touched on my emotions today. I, and a fe...Wow, you touched on my emotions today. I, and a few other female family members are optimists. We're always noticing the great things in our lives. We love humor, and do things to make ourselves laugh. I, like all people, have gone through some horrific times, but always joy rises through the pain. I never thought of it as a gift before. And I think just 'being' joyful is all you have to do.Karen Baldwinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01522178275164058849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-7195654013367477502012-07-20T02:09:50.831-07:002012-07-20T02:09:50.831-07:00This post really filled me with feelings of happin...This post really filled me with feelings of happiness because your optimism is infectious and so genuine that I can't help but share it even though I'm usually a "Derek Downer," haha. <br /><br />Great post in general Jericha, to actively go out of your way to spread that joy and natural optimism is truly awesome and I wish you the best in everything.Outcasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03400755239612162157noreply@blogger.com