tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post4404225623856601078..comments2024-03-28T02:15:06.910-07:00Comments on Tossing It Out: Ask Arlee: How Do I Know When It's Time to Stop?Arlee Birdhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11663942782929929334noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-60981743636059983632013-11-16T21:28:23.244-08:002013-11-16T21:28:23.244-08:00Buck-- I don't push the dreams like I should, ...Buck-- I don't push the dreams like I should, but life still treats me well. Actually I have fantasized about being a radio DJ. I've pictured myself spinning discs late at night into the wee hours playing weird off-the-wall cuts and tossing out banter about this or that. The blog has been kind of a substitute for that dream.<br /><br />LeeArlee Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11663942782929929334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-76768253362705551822013-11-16T21:20:41.551-08:002013-11-16T21:20:41.551-08:00Timely post Lee! Thanks for the encouragement and...Timely post Lee! Thanks for the encouragement and nudge to keep on trucking. How are your dreams coming along? You must have wanted to be a DJ with all your Battle of the Bands!Buck Inspirehttp://buckinspire.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-67049697705226758262013-11-16T18:31:38.272-08:002013-11-16T18:31:38.272-08:00Gary-- If we don't learn from mistakes we are ...Gary-- If we don't learn from mistakes we are missing the most important lessons that come our way. I have prolonged the successful attainment of my dreams by making some of the same lame mistakes repeatedly. Deferment of my dream due to not paying attention in class.<br /><br />Thanks for adding your thoughts.<br /><br />LeeArlee Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11663942782929929334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-10826829842625727792013-11-16T17:35:06.833-08:002013-11-16T17:35:06.833-08:00If you have genuine, sincere belief in your dream,...If you have genuine, sincere belief in your dream, you have a better chance of making that dream a reality.<br /><br />I dreamt that one day I would be as awesome as you, Lee. Then I woke up and realised that was just a delusional dream.<br /><br />Seriously, I never give up on dreams. No regrets, just different ways of looking at situations. I am not defined by my mistakes, what I learn from my mistakes, defines me.<br /><br />A good Sunday to you.<br /><br />Gary klahaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08613505424843475639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-70877750027431784312013-11-14T17:50:29.315-08:002013-11-14T17:50:29.315-08:00Nicki -- Too many times people will up and quit wi...Nicki -- Too many times people will up and quit without considering all the options they have available to them.<br /><br />MJ--Actually we all might do well to reassess the course we're taking on a weekly basis so we don't get too far off course.<br /><br />Kelly -- So many of us realize things like this too late. Since we are more resilient when we are younger we can deal with changing course more easily.<br /><br />C. Lee -- regretting is a waste of energy, but I suppose it's interesting to speculate the what if's.<br /><br />Lee<br /><br />Arlee Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11663942782929929334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-37721842195762430792013-11-14T16:26:31.074-08:002013-11-14T16:26:31.074-08:00I did walk away from a dream once. I'm not sur...I did walk away from a dream once. I'm not sure if I made a bad decision, but I do know that I wouldn't have the husband and the children I have today. I wouldn't be living in a place I love. I often think about "What if," but I can't say I regret my choice to let that particular dream go.cleemckenziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15456109243453726483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-17771053383042443922013-11-14T16:26:24.860-08:002013-11-14T16:26:24.860-08:00As someone who quit a steady job of sixteen years ...As someone who quit a steady job of sixteen years to join the unpredictable world of freelancing, I know a thing or two about following a dream. I only wish I'd done it sooner. I should have listened to myself. Kelly Robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01752857506190488860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-21705856247347875532013-11-14T15:01:27.245-08:002013-11-14T15:01:27.245-08:00I've spent quite a bit of time reassessing thi...I've spent quite a bit of time reassessing this week. It's good to step back. Sometimes we get lost in the process and/or work. We forget to aim the dart, master the technique and hit the bullseye. Then we wonder why so much times has passed, while we have little or nothing to show for our original goal. Goals aren't the roadmap. Reaching them is the result of taking the journey. Journeys have detours, and sometimes they change course altogether. All things for good, so take it in stride and keep moving forward. Thanks for another thoughtful post, Lee. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-73367215097095560322013-11-14T12:48:59.430-08:002013-11-14T12:48:59.430-08:00Oh, I like this idea very much to reevaluate rathe...Oh, I like this idea very much to reevaluate rather than give up. When inspired, I often find myself running off before getting the full message and as a result, sometimes I've got to about face or change course -- but you're exactly right, that doesn't mean the dream is dead. I'm reading this at a very good time. Thanks for asking the question, Jeremy, and for answering , Lee. Nicki Elsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11412032684225126973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-86313650243412122372013-11-14T12:26:32.799-08:002013-11-14T12:26:32.799-08:00Suze -- Yeah, my mind frequently turns to travel a...Suze -- Yeah, my mind frequently turns to travel analogies.<br /><br />Connie -- Going on one's own can be a lonely road to travel.<br /><br />Lee<br />Arlee Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11663942782929929334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-31641964854657701052013-11-14T11:42:28.811-08:002013-11-14T11:42:28.811-08:00Nice post! It's always good to dream and encou...Nice post! It's always good to dream and encouragement helps. It's good to keep in mind the support and encouragement of others that help us have the hope of achieving our dreams.Connie Arnoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06264510809220669622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-23901597634405438062013-11-14T08:04:22.247-08:002013-11-14T08:04:22.247-08:00I like your car analogy a lot. We've all got m...I like your car analogy a lot. We've all got more than one (metaphorical) car in the garage and sometimes it's okay to take the non-dream one out for a spin. The view from that one can be illuminating. :)<br /><br />An excellent post, Lee.Suzehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07908805179119217608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-19471557798685272962013-11-14T07:55:48.512-08:002013-11-14T07:55:48.512-08:00Lynda -- I think that sometimes we have to distanc...Lynda -- I think that sometimes we have to distance ourselves before we see the bigger picture and everything put into perspective. Success can be measured in many ways.<br /><br />Jo-- Maybe you can't capture an old dream exactly how you once pictured it, but still have a part of that dream. Reassessing what you once wanted and where you are now might bring that dream back. I don't know that it's ever absolutely too late.<br /><br />Karen -- I like it if my posts inspire thought. Thanks for reading.<br /><br />Desert -- Things are tough for a lot of us. I know what you're saying.<br /><br />Rachna -- Go ahead and do something else for awhile, but don't totally give up that big dream.<br /><br />Michael -- Life is so filled with uncertainty. We should always be ready to adapt to change if it becomes necessary.<br /><br />Beer --Life goes so fast, especially when we look back on where we've been. Keep on truckin' but don't forget to take the breaks when you need them.<br /><br />Lee<br />Arlee Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11663942782929929334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-4707155553978218472013-11-14T06:32:22.738-08:002013-11-14T06:32:22.738-08:00All of my dreams involve writing, but I have a lon...All of my dreams involve writing, but I have a long life ahead of me, a wealth of ideas, and any number of our books could become #1 bestsellers. The key (for me, anyway) is to keep writing, keep putting out more books, and just see which one eventually takes off.A Beer for the Showerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17029139745335325356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-26386028804563957792013-11-13T21:47:53.659-08:002013-11-13T21:47:53.659-08:00I often ask myself if pursuing a dream is worth th...I often ask myself if pursuing a dream is worth the work and uncertainty. I'd like to believe it is...and as long as I keep believing it, then it has to be true. I appreciate what you said about even in times of doubt and lost momentum, it doesn't mean that it's time to throw in the towel, it doesn't mean that the dream is gone, it's just a time to reassess, maybe even take a break, but then continue down the path when you're ready. I have many moments of doubt and setbacks, but I never want to look at them as roadblocks, just bumps along the road. Persistence. Onward. Thank you for this post.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03060064276650474244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-29463548121527841462013-11-13T18:48:47.159-08:002013-11-13T18:48:47.159-08:00Great post Arelee and also very timely. Many times...Great post Arelee and also very timely. Many times I feel like giving up this great or shall I say big writing dream and doing something else :(Rachna Chhabriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16900999965919504282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-36260227081423354672013-11-13T17:35:53.639-08:002013-11-13T17:35:53.639-08:00Thanks for the encouragement Arlee. Things are tou...Thanks for the encouragement Arlee. Things are tough right now and I appreciate it! Intangible Heartshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05047040538015079182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-18441066226533927772013-11-13T15:36:52.226-08:002013-11-13T15:36:52.226-08:00That is such a good question. Can't answer it ...That is such a good question. Can't answer it but I sure am thinking....Thanks, Arlee and Jeremy.Karen Jones Gowenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11378428503220197256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-31355998537284363892013-11-13T15:25:50.322-08:002013-11-13T15:25:50.322-08:00I was dissuaded from pursuing a dream as a young t...I was dissuaded from pursuing a dream as a young teen and in latter years I regretted it when it was really too late to do anything about it.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14087140585742801854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-39402704499982490082013-11-13T14:21:45.225-08:002013-11-13T14:21:45.225-08:00I have a terrible habit of not realising I've ...I have a terrible habit of not realising I've found success until after I've moved on. It's only until after I think back on what I achieved, that I realised I achieved more than I could see at the time. I can be seriously dense sometimes ;)Lynda R Young as Elle Cardyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09975442291393246148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-5726315729259955992013-11-13T12:30:53.730-08:002013-11-13T12:30:53.730-08:00Tina -- I know how life can get in the way sometim...Tina -- I know how life can get in the way sometimes, but we can keep going again when the roadway is clear again.<br /><br />Susan G/K- A dream without struggle is not a challenge. Overcoming challenge makes for a good story.<br /><br />StMc-- I'd never heard that bit of trivia, but changing the title was a good idea. You can continue following this blog. None of your picks were correct. A hint: bits of the song lyric are scattered through this post and my previous one.<br /><br />Robin-- Unfinished projects provide projects for the future. If they are painful then they must need some work, but not dismissal.<br /><br />Morgan -- Thank you. Most of us have given up on a dream or two. It doesn't mean we can't go back to it though even if we go back in a different way and for a different reason.<br /><br />Andrew -- I think that makes my answer in part similar to yours. If a plan is not working you just have to step back to see if you had the correct goals in mind. The spirit of the dream is usually okay, but the reality of achieving the dream as you have seen it may need to be reevaluated.<br /><br />Jagoda -- I think dreams often change when focus becomes more clear and we have a better picture of the reality of where we are heading with the dream.<br /><br />Lee<br /><br /><br />Arlee Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11663942782929929334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-9540437990036147922013-11-13T10:27:48.828-08:002013-11-13T10:27:48.828-08:00I too believe in following one's dreams and ne...I too believe in following one's dreams and never fully stopping. Taking a break, following another path for a while, sure. Sometimes dreams can change. After pursuing one for a while, it's possible to realize this isn't really it and adjust.<br />Lots of song possibilities in your clues--I look forward to Friday.<br />BTW--I'm answering your question on my blog in tonight's post. It'll go up around 7:30 as usual if all goes according to plan.Jagodahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18352786929899391940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-24704547016805880952013-11-13T10:18:17.498-08:002013-11-13T10:18:17.498-08:00I think that's the unanswerable question. Or, ...I think that's the unanswerable question. Or, maybe, the wrong question. Maybe both. What I can say is this: If what you're doing isn't working, something needs to change.Andrew Leonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13964775673414653644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-87500544816101466942013-11-13T10:16:07.258-08:002013-11-13T10:16:07.258-08:00I have given up on a dream and regretted it... so ...I have given up on a dream and regretted it... so much so that it's tortured me for a decade... I think that's why I won't let myself give up on my writing. I'm sure that I would feel the same regret. Such a beautiful post. This really resonated with me. Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15747144518868320969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-149224757183756660.post-48003446346002225592013-11-13T10:04:06.532-08:002013-11-13T10:04:06.532-08:00The novel I was writing back in 2010 is on the she...The novel I was writing back in 2010 is on the shelf. I never could finish it and became so disgusted that I put it away. Does that mean I will NEVER take it out again? Nope. But, I am still quite happy not looking at it now. I am working on something else and it is good.<br /><br />No idea on your song. I see all of the possibilities offered up so far. It could be any or none of them. Your last post had nothing to do with dreams. You are tricky, my friend.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14932408372240147454noreply@blogger.com