|Aquaman along with the other prominent characters from Super Friends (Photo credit: Wikipedia)|
I've been working on getting my A to Z posts finished up before the start of the 2016 Challenge. This is the opening week! The first post will be this coming Friday. To complicate things for me it looks like I've been called away for that first week so it will slow me down considerably keeping up with blog visiting. Yikes! It's going to be a frantic start for me.
Also on that opening day I'll have a Battle of the Bands post that will open up my April Theme Series of Manhattan. I'll be featuring a song that I like a lot and I hope you'll like it too. And two fantastic versions as well. So I hope you'll join me and vote on that Battle.
Recently I received an odd message on Facebook. Now, I'm well aware that some of you avoid Facebook and I can respect that. Personally I'm mainly there to keep up with family members and certain other folks. I don't read that much on Facebook and don't visit that much.
However in the case of the message that was addressed specifically to me, it came to my attention from an email notification. I'm not sure how those Facebook messages work or who can see them, but this particular one showed up in my regular stream of postings. My first wife saw my response to the message and joked about it which led to a bit of banter between us. A blogger who is a Facebook friend joined in the repartee with a bon mot of her own so I guess some people could see the original declaration of disassociation.
The message said something like, "I see you like ( _____ ). I'm going to unfriend you." I won't say what was in the blank or who the sender was because that's not the real point of the irony in this story.
I pondered the message a moment then it came to me that actually I don't even know this person--not in my physical world. I think I know a little about this person just from what this person writes online. There are photos of the person online, but I can only assume the photos are the person in question--it's not a thing that I actually know.
Most of us in the blogging community probably refer to each other as friends if we frequently visit each other. It's a different kind of friendship though. When I've actually met someone face to face and got to know them or maybe talk to them on the phone now and then or have an ongoing back and forth written correspondence then maybe those are more like friends. Friendships are on different levels and mean different things.
To actively make an announced effort that another person is unfriending me seems weird and ironic for sure. The person could have just quietly without any fanfare clicked whatever one needs to do in order to disconnect contact with me. Or better yet they could have sent me a longer message or an email to let me know why they were bothered.
To stop being "friends" because of something another person likes seems peculiar to me in a way. To my knowledge I'm not even sure the other person got the information from anything I said--certainly not on Facebook. Maybe on Twitter since I do say some random stuff there sometimes.
It doesn't matter all that much to me. The unfriending or shunning process on social media just struck me as something curious and even interesting. Surely media researchers and psychologists have done or are doing studies on this topic. It's the new age of developing friendships.
I don't think social media friends will ever adequately replace friends that I can sit down to talk with in person. On the other hand it's nice to have you readers as my friends. I hope you don't ever unfriend me.
Have you ever been "unfriended" on a social media site? If so, how did you feel about it? Do you have friends that you do things with in your physical life? What are some things you like to do with friends?