|Humility is not thinking less of yourself but thinking of yourself less. |
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When it comes to self-promoting, many of you start experiencing ego deflation. A lack of self confidence and fear that you are not good enough can hamper your ability to sell yourself to others. Maybe it's time for a self-evaluation. Take inventory of what it is that you are offering others and then look deeper to see what else you might be missing.
You have talents. You have something to give others. You are valuable in your uniqueness. And now you have to convince yourself. It's time to educate your ego.
The concept of ego often is put in a bad light and for good reason. An egocentric person can come across as very unlikeable and annoying. You don't want to be that person. You are important, but you also need to keep others in mind.
Teach yourself to carry yourself with a air of confidence but not arrogance. Paying attention to your appearance, mannerisms, and speech will make that good initial impression on others. The way you behave and treat others after the first encounter will carry the relationship forward in a positive manner.
Don't hide behind a mask of fakery, but be personable and approachable. You may know more than others regarding your field of expertise, but that doesn't make you better than your market audience. Maybe you are smarter than others--perhaps brilliant--but condescension doesn't make you attractive to those whom you are addressing. If you want to win others over to your side it's helpful to be at least somewhat nice.
Learn by doing. In your encounters with others gage reactions carefully to learn what gets a point across well and what doesn't. Get feedback from others. Ask those you trust how they think you've done in your communication efforts.
Most of all, look at the end results of what you are doing. Did you get the results you were hoping for? If not why? Be honest with your self-assessments. Don't let yourself get in the way of what you are trying to do.
Do you think you might have an inflated ego? What draws you to another person? Are there any particular sales techniques that you think are particularly effective?