|A network of pain & suffering (Photo credit: looking4poetry)|
Today's post is really just a prelim to my Battle of the Bands post that will be coming tomorrow. It's a bit of a hint of the song I'll be using in my Battle, but with a touch of "controversy" or at least something to gnaw on with your mind.
Does Getting Hurt Make You Better?
An argument is often made that pain and suffering builds character. If we don't know what it's like to be down then we can't understand what real happiness is. Getting hurt emotionally isn't a great feeling, but if we manage to live through it all and eventually get over it we become tougher. We are better for having endured and emerged from the depths of darkness.
We've all been burned in relationships whether it be love, friendship, business, or family. Some people will hold a grudge and never get over their negative feelings about the person who hurt them. But how much does that accomplish? We usually hurt ourselves when we do that. Often the person against whom we hold our grudge doesn't even realize that anything is wrong. Our resentment becomes a useless burden that we carry around draining our energy and stealing our joy.
When we've shed the resentment and get over that bad episode in our life we feel better. Our thoughts are able to turn to more useful enterprises. If we've learned a lesson that helps us in the future then we have experienced self-improvement and demonstrated the inner strength which we are capable of having.
Let's face it. There will always be jerks in the world. We don't have to be one of them.
Do you think that holding a grudge ever improves a situation? Is experiencing pain and suffering good for character building? Do you feel better when you've gotten over a painful situation? What is a positive alternative to feeling angry with someone else? Can you guess what my song pick for tomorrow will be?
Be sure to be here tomorrow for the Battle of the Bands!